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When we think about having mind-blowing orgasms or opening up our relationships into ethical non-monogamy/polyamory, we don't often think about all the grief we're going to have to move through in order to get there. We often only talk about grief when it comes to the death of a loved one (or a complicated one).…
TW: I'm a settler with German and Slovak ancestry. My analysis of colonialism is from a place of undoing internalized white supremacy as a white person. There is also brief mention of abuse and childhood sexual abuse with no details. As the world watches the genocide in Palestine unfold by the Israeli government, there has…
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Sex is the ultimate playground of sensory experiences. Living as an autistic person, highly sensitive person (HSP), or with ADHD, a sensory processing disorder*, or synesthesia can heighten the experiences of sex or completely overload us. Kink spaces can be a safe-haven for many neurodivergent people as the sensory experience of a play scene can…
When I began my journey as a sex therapist I was approaching it like a sex educator. For most of my life, I wanted to be in sex education, but I could never quite find my place in it. I tried working with youth, exploring sexual health through holistic medicines, I even tried filling the…
Marla is excited to share that they are running a 3-part workshop series starting on Tuesday evenings November 29th, called Exploring Polyamory: Beyond the 101.
Typically, I would not subscribe to any magical potion for sex therapy, concrete or abstract, that claims to cure what ails you in sex. BUT, this particular medicine is a doozy! I use it in my sex therapy practice all the time. Are you ready? Here it is...
Every year, I take a break during August from my sex therapy practice to reorient my sex counselling philosophy and skills. Ironically, it is when I am taking a break from sex therapy I find myself hungry for new ideas, resources, and information that might support my sex counselling skills. This past August my holiday…
Each of these tools are techniques and approaches I incorporate into my sex therapy practice. Each have their primary focus, underlying philosophy, and limitations. None of these tools have immediate results or offers "the move" to have amazing sex every time. Rather, they are fundamental sex therapy skills that will support you in having deeply…
Throughout my training to expand my skills in sex counselling, sex therapy, and as a relationship therapist there were courses on all sorts of approaches to psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioural, existential, Gestalt, Rogerian, psychodynamic… it's a lot to keep in mind as a therapist studying the material let alone as someone looking for tools and approaches to…
CS: The following article discusses the topic of birth trauma and is a guest post written by Christiane Lafleche. Italicized writing is an introduction to the topic by Tynan Rhea. There is no question that trauma of all kinds can impact our ability to be enjoy pleasurable activities, such as sex. Birth trauma in particular…
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